Children, Life Skills, & Martial Arts

A good   martial arts program for kids encompasses the techniques of the martial art,   as well as other aspects of life.  Yin   & Yang.  If you are going to teach   a child the art of combat, there has to be a component of negotiation or   peace.  The old adage “If all you have   is a hammer, you treat every problem as a nail” holds true.  Abraham Kaplan (author of The Conduct of   Inquiry: Methodology for Behavioral Science, 1964) called this “The law of   instrument, formulated as follows:    Give a small boy a hammer, and he will find that everything he   encounters needs pounding”.

If the   art teaches combat, there must be a healing aspect such as first aid.  Confrontation paired with confrontation   avoidance.  There has to be a balance   to make them not only well rounded martial artists, but well rounded people.  The more tools your child has, the better   prepared they will be for life.  The   martial arts will create confidence and teach them how to stand up for/protect themselves,   but without the “arts” of compromise, negotiation, and kindness; you've   potentially created a bully.

I’m not   putting the responsibility teaching these things on the martial arts school,   but it is a good place to experience the integration of all these life   skills.  There aren't many safe places   where your child can experience combat and confrontation while seeing   compromise, negotiation, and kindness all in the same place.